The trick to building a positive habit into your lifestyle is repetition. It needs to be practiced regularly before it moves from the conscious mind to the unconscious and thus you perform it naturally. There are seven areas to of your life that you need to focus on to create a balanced and successful lifestyle. Within this article I will teach you three of the most valuable tools or habits that can be applied to help you improve any area of your life. The seven areas are, work/career, financial, recreational, relationships, personal goals, contribution to the larger community, and health/fitness.
“Life is like a combination lock; your job is to find the right numbers; in the right order, so you can have anything you want.”
Habit No 1. Goal Setting
When deciding your goal you should choose a goal that will stretch you. Remember that your ultimate goal in addition to achieving your material goals is to become a master at life. To do this you need to expand your vision of what is possible, build new relationships and learn to overcome your fears, your considerations (all the reasons why you shouldn’t do it) and any external roadblocks. There are five things you need to remember when writing your goals. And you can remember them using the A, B, C, method.
- Aim to be specific when choosing your goal.
- Be positive – Always state your goal in the positive never in the negative.
- C – See, hear, feel – Describe what you will experience once you have reached your goal. Ask yourself how will you know you have got there?
- Directly under your control – Ensure it is within your power to achieve your goal.
- Ecological – Does achieving this goal fit in with the other seven areas of your lifestyle?
You need to decide what you want, take consistent and deliberate action, notice what is happening and be flexible. If it’s not working for you then change your approach. I would recommend writing your goals down, carrying them and reviewing them regularly. Give your self a deadline; if you don’t state when you will have completed it by, it may never get done. Big tasks can be over whelming, so if you have chosen a goal that is going to stretch you, then break it down into smaller, more manageable, individual tasks.
“You want to set a goal that is big enough that in the process of achieving it you become someone worth becoming”
Jim Rohn – self made millionaire, success coach and philosopher.
Habit No 2. Visualisation
The creative subconscious doesn’t think in words, it only thinks in pictures. We all make pictures and images in our minds constantly. We talk to ourselves, can hear internal sounds and get internal feelings, tastes and smells. The various elements of our imaginary images are called sub modalities. These are the building blocks of our internal world.
When you have clearly defined your goals you need to practise visualizing them as though they are already accomplished. The reason being, that the brain sees no difference whatsoever between visualizing something and actually doing it. If you visualize your goals as already complete each and every day, it creates conflict in your subconscious mind between what you are visualizing and what your current situation is. Your subconscious mind tries to resolve that conflict by turning your current reality into the new, more exciting image.
By visualizing your goals you stimulate an area of the brain known as the reticular activating system (RAS). At any one time there are about 8 million pieces of info streaming into your brain, most of which you can’t and don’t need to attend to. So your brains RAS filters them for you, letting into your awareness only those signals that help you survive and achieve your most important goals. Your RAS allows in anything that will help you achieve the goals that you have set and continuously visualized and affirmed. Visualisation focuses your brain by programming its RAS to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
While the conscious mind analyses, criticizes and thinks logically. The unconscious mind stores your memories; it is where wisdom, creativity and problem solving capabilities reside. By visualising, you activate the power of your subconscious mind to create solutions. Visualizing will help you create new levels of motivation, resulting in you taking more risks in your personal life to help you attain your goals. It also helps magnetize and attract to you the people, resources and opportunities you need to realize your goal.
To get the best results from your visualizing you need to exaggerate the sub modalities. This helps multiply the effect many times over. Enhance the image by brightening the colours, magnifying the picture, adding sounds, smells, tastes and feelings to your visualisation. Think what emotions and bodily sensations you would be feeling if you had already achieved your goal? For those of you who are non-eidetic visualizers you may not be able to see everything in bright, clear, three dimensional technicolour images. You don’t see the image as much as you think it. You can employ the help of a visualisation board. A visualisation board is a collection of images you associate with achieving your goal. Put this collection of images together on a board and place it somewhere you can see and review it every day.
Habit No 3. Affirmations
An affirmation is a short sentence that you can repeat to yourself regularly which stimulates your subconscious to help you attain your goals. There are a number of principles you need to stick to while writing your affirmations.
- Always start your affirmation with the words I am. These are the two most powerful words in the English language. The subconscious takes any sentence starting with the words I am and interprets it as a command, a directive to make it happen.
- Describe what you want as though you already have it, as though it is already accomplished.
- Make it specific. Vague affirmations produce vague results.
- Affirm what you want, not what you don’t want. The unconscious does not hear the word no. Remember the unconscious thinks in pictures. So the phrase “I am no longer afraid of swimming” evokes an image of failure, while the phrase “I am happily and easily able to swim” evokes an image of success.
- Think of your affirmation as an advertising jingle. Act as if each word costs €1,000. It needs to be short enough to be easily remembered.
- Include an action word ending in – ing. The active verb adds power to the effect by evoking an image of doing it right now.
- 7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word. Include the emotional state you would be feeling if you had already achieved your goal. Commonly used words include enjoying, happily, celebrating, peacefully, delighted, enthusiastic, secure and triumphant.
You should write your affirmations down and review them regularly. Speak them to yourself or out loud daily. The process of affirming your wants adds effect to your visualisations and can produce greater results then visualising alone. The following is a good example of an affirmation you could use to help you achieve your physical peak. This affirmation follows all of the above seven rules.
“I Am Easily and Enjoyably Maintaining A Perfect Body Fat Percentage of 10%”
These practices are those frequently used by wealthy and successful people. Remember the key to building any habit is to consistently apply it. Repetition… repetition… repetition….
Now you have to the tools to achieve the most worthy of goals in your life. So go forth and apply!